A leopard can change its spots.
But cheetahs never do.
Changing your mind is one thing.
But changing your heart, is about as easy as making a mountain move.
A new year, a new you.
This year will be different.
A false promise? Or does here lie the truth?
Do you need to change your perspective?
Moreso than actually changing you?
Do you need to take more time reflecting?
Than taking time, faking, being too big for your boots?
The best way to stick to a resolution is to not have one, yes you read that right. Take it from me a serial procrastinator and die-hard quitter. If you wanna get something done, don’t bloody do it! Have a look at the ‘reactance theory’ – when we feel pressured to perform action A we will most likely perform the opposite of action A to assert our freedom to ourselves.
If you call it a ‘resolution’ you’ll make it seem like a ‘chore’. Then it becomes something we feel we need to do rather than want to do. We, in a way, remove the freedom of choice by simply labelling it as a ‘New Year’s Resolution. So in that case:
- You Don’t Need To Go To The Gym
Gyms are full of sweat stained death traps, one wrong pull on the weight machine and you’re six feet under let’s be honest. Sure, the hot guy in the tight cotton blue t-shirt will be there but so will that pesky personal trainer, what’s his name again Marv the perv? Whatever you do just don’t squat!
- You Don’t Need To Give Up Smoking
That one single puff of luxury you get every 25 minutes, a much needed moment of euphoria from the usual turmoil of kids kicking and screaming and cats p*ssing on carpets. Otherwise known as general family life. If God gives you lung cancer it’s a fair trade off for the sweet serene seconds you escape Tommy’s temper tantrums you tell yourself.
- You Don’t Need To Save Any Money
Living in squalor really isn’t as bad as it seems, or so you keep telling yourself. Sure, you could start up a bit of a piggy bank, save something for a rainy day, but then how would you be able to afford your cancer sticks?
- You Don’t Need To Learn A New Skill – Like How To Crochet Blindfolded
Are you 85 or just senile through choice? Leave crocheting for the deathbed and go smash that piggy bank open instead.
If you really want to stick to your resolutions this year use a bit of voodoo witchcraft, I mean reverse psychology! Happy 2019!
Helpful link; Psychology Today
A December Day
The air is crisp, cold and clean.
My breath sparkles in its grasp like fairydust.
I feel like a fairytale’s dragon.
The darkness cloaks the clouds,
Choking out any lasting glimmers of light,
As the sun sets low in the Winter sky.
The trees look fragile.
Their vulnerability exposed,
By the nakedness of their form.
Patience is a virtue,
As you wait for the freeze to thaw.
Spring is almost upon us,
The wait won’t be too long. .